Reconciliation – 和解
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Have you experienced true reconciliation? That time when you see forgiveness extended in the eyes of another? When you extend forgiveness to someone else. Have you felt the release of stored-up emotion and the change? Profound tears abound on both sides. And in some cases, on the opposite side of an empty chair.
Whether it be with an elderly parent and an adult child, an adult and another family member, spouses, siblings, or another traumatic life event, it’s transformative. The culmination of hard work in counseling, especially for the person holding on to the past, the pain, you name the emotion or event.
It’s emotional and challenging work to move to a place of a balanced perspective. It takes some people longer than others. It includes validating facts, feelings, and the reality of the event. It’s not about forgetting or ignoring but facing it head-on. As one person described it as “facing a roaring lion behind the door they held shut, believing to let it out would devour them.” In reality, it wasn’t the roaring lion they perceived, and it didn’t devour them as they believed it would. But that’s our effort, and it’s good. However, God has a way of moving in the middle of all that. Because it’s not about our work, albeit it occurs, it’s about His work in and through us.
Have you faced your lion head-on and embraced it, experienced change? Can you exclaim as others have, “I am the beautiful person that He designed despite those events?” Experienced-reconciliation, forgiveness, or restoration. Especially when the person who was injured has long passed?
Without minimizing the injury or the fact of the event, we choose. It’s simple but a hard choice. To just let it go and lay the demand at the foot of the cross. Not an easy decision, one many avoid for years, for decades, and some nearly their entire life.
But they did. The work and struggles were real and hard-fought. They changed. A heart metamorphosis. The pouring out of God’s love in their hearts or the hearts of others. Hearts, the Spirit softened and transformed into lives that rippled out into every other relationship. It changed not only them but others. Those they knew and those they met.
He transformed them. He can and will change you.
Accept the gift.
Then, give it away and watch the ripple.